Simone & Cam, the hearts and minds behind www.BubblesandBumps.com, came to me in a flash of kismet. They were looking for help taking their web presence to the next level, and they’d found me on LinkedIn. Within our first five minutes talking, we learned that Cam and I went to high school together and had tons of common connections. After knocking me over with a stellar first impression, they drew me in with their friendship and teamwork and their willingness to share their journeys through IVF, and towards parenthood, with others. Their interest in building community and bringing levity to a tough issue convinced me they’d be the perfect candidates to invite to revive my Cups of Cold Water series: stories from women about significant moments in their lives when another woman’s openness and kindness made a difference. I hope you’ll enjoy their contribution, and I hope you’ll go visit their site and share it with anyone you know whose journey towards becoming a parent has been unconventional.
This was a tough one to write because I can count numerous times Cam has given me a cup of cold water and a refreshing glass of cold rosé too 😉 but one of the earliest memories is when my husband and I moved to LA from London. We didn’t know anyone else and had nowhere to stay, but thankfully Cam and Toby welcomed us with open arms. They found a space in their home for us to stay and made us feel like family.
The weeks leading up to the move were also really exciting as we both discovered we were pregnant with just 2 weeks apart. I thought how amazing it was to have a friend who would be going through what I was at the exact same time and how exciting it would be that our babies could one day be friends. Sadly the dream of changing diapers together wasn’t meant to be, as a few days before we jetted off we had our 8 week scan and there was no heartbeat. We were told we would probably have a miscarriage any day from now, and, if not, we needed to book a D&C as soon as we got to America.
Apart form the obvious stress about when this miscarriage may happen and when we also had no doctor in LA, and I had no idea about how to enroll with one or how medical insurance worked. When Cam heard our news she did everything she could to help us find the right doctor, which was a nightmare because the waiting list was at least 2 weeks, but she found someone and it immediately lifted a weight of stress for both of us.
The first couple of weeks in LA were hard but they would have been much harder without her love and support. Little did I know I would be repaying the cup of cold water to her so soon….
Fast forward one week later.
It was my turn to go to the OB’s office for my 8 week scan. I had a miscarriage months before so this time around I tried to hold my excitement as much as possible until I got the thumbs up. Well, not only was there no heartbeat, but there were two embryo sacs. Twins! Something I had always wanted so this was a double blow.
Coming home defeated, Simone comforted me, as I too had to schedule a D&C the following week. My husband had a work trip planned on the day of my surgery, so Simone offered to take me in as she knew exactly what kind of pain I was going to endure both physically and emotionally. It was one of the hardest times of my life and Simone just being there having gone through the same thing, helped me more than I could even have imagined.
Once I recovered from the surgery, my husband and I struggled to get pregnant again. Simone had already visited a fertility office and advised that I could gain some benefit and insight to what was going wrong. I was hesitant at first because I didn’t see that there was a big enough problem worth addressing. Well I was wrong… the doctor noticed that my progesterone level was unbalanced (which can cause miscarriage). Several visits later we also found out that my husband had a low sperm count. If I hadn’t accepted the cold cup of water of advice and guidance, I wouldn’t have gone to the fertility office, I wouldn’t have discovered these issues, been offered help through IVF and I wouldn’t have had my daughter Evangeline.
Simone and I both discovered when doing our own research that infertility is very common yet there weren’t enough websites with information that we could relate to so we decided to start a blog and hopefully give a cup of cold water to the many other women out there who were struggling with the same thing.
Documenting our journeys on www.bubblesandbumps.com has been such a great project for us to come together and bond over personal stories. From a new friendship came a business partnership, and now a family.
It didn’t end there… throughout the next challenges of what comes along with marriage, pregnancy and then parenthood, Simone has been my rock and confidant as well as a great auntie. I can’t imagine what my life would be like today if I didn’t accept her continuous cold cups of water.